No matter how meek and mild I might consider myself, there will always be times that I need to stand up for something or push back, and just get used to the fact of the conflict.
And sometimes, that’s still a profoundly uncomfortable experience. So how can I make it less so?
I’ve studied Aikido for long enough to come up with a theory about it: I think it is a study of how to bend time and alter space.
There are tales of O’Sensei – the founder of Aikido – bamboozling his students by disappearing and reappearing behind them, so much so that they thought he was supernaturally travelling between dimensions.
What if they were right? What if it’s possible to have such an exquisite sense of timing that you move out of the way of an attack at an impossibly last moment?
Until I started coaching, I was working long hours in a job that I had outgrown, believing that staying there was bringing my family the support that they need. I consciously made the decision to put myself last in the list – as long as my wife and children were getting everything they needed, I was doing the right thing.